Yeah, I definitely wouldn't throw in the towel until you've given your new local fandom a chance. Going to all these cons like I do, I've seen the community can be very different in different parts of the country. Lately I've been starting to wonder if some of my frustration comes from just being in the wrong place. :\

Of course, there's an equal chance it might suck even more. ;) I've heard good things about Katsucon, though.