It's all about the "he says, she says" bullshit

[wombat_socho]

For some reason best known to God and/or their ids, a number of acquaintances who live in the Ninth Circle of Hell* have felt it necessary to inform me of the doings of my ex-wife and her (apparently) soon-to-be-ex.
My general reaction to this is best expressed by the following picture posted last month by P:


More specifically, WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK WERE YOU THINKING? Yes, it's been damn near 14 years since things came to a messy end and I had to resort to some fairly radical reshaping of my headspace to get through that, but my disinterest in the life/death/encasement in carbonite/whatever of the former Mrs. Trainor and the Doormat That Walks Like A Man has not changed one iota. This is for a very good reason that two seconds of logical thought would have brought to mind, but I guess the urge to be the drama llama and spread the (objectively bad) news just kind of did a hard reset of the higher brain functions, huh? Did you really think I was going to be happy to hear this news?

God damn, but y'all gotten confused. You have this picture of me scrawled on the inside of your skull in luminescent Day-Glo paint, but it's not me, not even some kind of weird-ass demented Cubist version of me. Because if it had been, you would have known better and not done this. Worst of all, you weren't even there when all this shit you're telling me about happened. You heard something from Alice who talked to Bob about what Charlie said X told him, with X being either my ex or her most recent husband or my son, who wasted the last year or so of his life playing referee/marriage counselor. You're playing Telephone, and homie is long past playing that game. Include me the fuck out.

I'm not looking for an apology, because that would be meaningless and pro forma and stupid, but I would appreciate it if you never mentioned any of those people to me again. If you want to talk SF (or anime) I guess that'll be okay.

*Sometimes known as the State of Minnesota.

Comments

[huladavid.livejournal.com]

Will do. Sorry.

[wombat-socho.livejournal.com]

Don't feel like the Lone Ranger; as you may have gathered from my intemperate rant, some of my Detour acquaintances made the same mistake.

[huladavid.livejournal.com]

Oh dear... 'Though that is better then the image I had of all of MNSTF calling you up and making things worth.

[huladavid.livejournal.com]

Did I at least ask if you wanted to hear about the ex and the door mat? I THINK I did, but I'm not sure.

[wombat-socho.livejournal.com]

No, and neither did the other people who felt it was important that I know about this RIGHT NOW.

[huladavid.livejournal.com]

Ok, I'm officially appalled by my behaviour, and I'm really sorry I didn't ask first.

ex's in general

[(Anonymous)]

i got so tired of people informing me what the 'ex' was doing that i had to get rude with a couple of people. i don't care what he's doing, or with whom. the only way we communicate these days is through our lawyers, since i am a 'gentile' and not worthy of the attention of a morman in good standing with temple recommendations. go have a nice adult beverage and count yourself lucky that you live far enough away that she doesn't decide to show up on your doorstep unannounced for a shoulder to cry on.

[wombat-socho.livejournal.com]

David, I don't think I'm on speaking terms with very many people in MNSTF any more, which is no great surprise after I posted a copy of the HRMP replete with snarky comments and historical context here some years back.

[huladavid.livejournal.com]

Actually I could picture them swinging in on a rope vine anyway. There's a twisted code of honor in fandom along the lines of, "I must defend my enemy to the death for it is a fine and lonely thing to be a fan yada, blahda, Doo!"

(Side note: I've been going to the occasional MNSTF meeting (it's nice to see people without going to a funeral), but no involvement beyond that.)

[wombat-socho.livejournal.com]

Madge, she already did that via email a couple months back when things were starting to go off the cliff. While I may be largely indifferent these days, I'm not about to stand by while someone contemplates suicide...but I'd do that for any j - random stranger.

[jtrainor.livejournal.com]

I, and my mother, would appreciate it if y'all would stop trying to drag even more people into the mess that is our lives lately. Our lives are not a soap opera for your entertainment and I'd appreciate it if the whole lot of you (Dad excepted, since I know he won't talk around) would just shut your fat yaps about the subject entirely.

[wombat-socho.livejournal.com]

Hopefully things will settle down a bit up there and return to some semblance of order.